What is Your Life’s Work?

You know… I really never applied a deeper purpose to my career as a hairstylist. I always thought that my artistic ability and competence in communicating with clients were the things that pushed me towards success.

After all, what kind of affect can a hairstylist really have on the world?

I built my business on the intention that everyone should be able to afford to have good hair! It wasn’t until I was 9 years in, and busier than ever did I begin to question that; was it enough? It seemed I was working every waking hour, I was burnt out and wondering what my life purpose really was. Sure I had so many beautiful and gracious people around me most every day, but was I really making a difference in their lives? Was I making my life count? Was I building my legacy?

This question has been a great source of my anxiety for quite some time now. After countless hours of inertia, self study, and examination, I came to the conclusion that I had been asking the wrong question all along….

I was asking, “Is my life meaningful?”.

I should have been asking, “How can I make my life meaningful?”.

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And I will tell you what conclusion I have come too…

Working predominantly with color clients, I am able to spend the majority of my day with various women for a few hours each; it’s just her and I in a small partially enclosed space. Rather than allowing a superficial nature to my work, with physical change, gossip, and outer beauty, I had the perfect opportunity to work in partnership with inner beauty.

While building my dream space, I had put so much intention in creating a sanctuary from ordinary life; I really wanted a space for purpose and deep connection with my community, and once it was there, I had overlooked the opportunity to do so.

You know the saying, “the grass is always greener”? I was looking for something new to light up a path for me, hoping passion would be sparked somewhere else. I was doubting my career choice and praying daily for direction, when all along, deep down inside of me, I had the answer. This is what I was meant to do, I just had to challenge my faith and security to see that.

As hairstylists we are in the perfect position to really listen to our clients, to work one on one with them closely as we manifest the deepest beauty from within them. If you ask the right questions, and you take the time to communicate with someone who hasn’t felt like they have been heard, you can create lasting beauty. You have the ability to use your hands and ears, to bring to life that goddess form they have been burying underneath layers of doubt, and insecurities. Transformation is as internal as it is external, and that is the responsibility we step into, each time, we stand behind the chair.

Don’t ever discount your impact on others, believe that you can make the world a more loving and beautiful place.

XoXo,

Tia

 

In Response to What The Health

With all of the buzz circulating about the latest pro plant-based documentary, What The Health, I had to put in MY two cents in the only way I know how… a blog post.

After some hours (yes hours) of digging I was able to uncover a few photographs of my past self… I thought I had destroyed all evidence of the creature that ate Tia, but low and behold I found them. I don’t call that version of myself a creature for derogatory reasons, but more as a way of totally encompassing what had happened to me. I was completely absorbed in destructive emotional behavior and it was reflecting majorly in my skin, weight, and health. I hated myself; the way I looked, the direction my life was taking and the way I was behaving, were all signs of this. I was not a healthy human, and wasn’t nourishing myself physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

After a few hard life lessons, I realized it was time to make a change.

It was time to give up the poison that had entered my existence in the form of self loathing, guilt, body shaming, emotional eating, chemical dependence (in “food”), weight loss plans, and a clouded sense of self-worth. It was time I started treating myself the way I treated most everyone else, and it was TIME that I had a real conversation with my spirit about how I was doing in these areas.

I thought I had confidence and good self-esteem and I always felt like I was loved and able to love myself… but when I took a good, hard, look at what I was fueling my body, mind, and spirit with, it was a rude awakening.

I learned that I was eating addictive substances in the form of chemical additives, sweeteners, sodas, and processed foods. I realized the body shaming and guilt cycles of diets and the ups and downs of being insecure about my weight were toxic for my soul, and were all, quite possibly, the culprits for true joy being sucked from my life. I didn’t feel good so I started really putting in the time to research and invest in my wholeness and well-being. By some guidance, from a previously unknown internal source, I had slowly converted to a 100% plant-based diet, and had no idea exactly how I had gotten there. The results were incredible. My face and eye color changed, brightened, temperament relaxed, I had regained passion for living and was able to make business goals and quickly become more successful in my career. I lost 70 pounds and went from a size 15 to a 3. The dark cloud had cleared from my mind, and I was reborn.

This transformation took 2 years and when I looked back, it was like I had boarded a train and wasn’t sure of exactly where it was going at the time.

With this intense physical detoxification, I also spiritually, emotionally, and mentally detoxified. Choosing carefully what I filled my spare time with, and ensuring that anything I was reading or watching was fueling me on every level in a positive way.  Health has always been something I don’t view as a destination, but a journey, constantly evolving and growing. As I educate myself and work through the deepest and most buried conflicts within my overall energy and material body, I find that my greatest passion is becoming the best possible version of me.

True and authentic reflection of the soul. 

In relation to the documentary, I will just say this… these outlets of information are meant to make you think. To make you stop and question the things you do mindlessly everyday that are leading you to a lack of health or happiness… sure they may be exaggerated or “cherry picked” facts, BUT if this is what it takes for you to turn inward and evaluate whether or not you’re doing the best you can for your ultimate well-being… well, then watch away and let yourself be shocked. As an adult consumer you should ALWAYS gather as much information as possible and then use personal experience, factual evidence, internal guidance, and intent in choosing the right lifestyle options for you.

May you all find self-love and inexplicable happiness.

XoXo

-Tia

6 Things You Should STOP Saying to People With Dreadlocks

I am quite sure that between my social awkwardness and inability to hide a completely dumbfounded reaction, I have been perceived as rude in many cases. My daily interactions can be uncomfortable and strange from time to time, and it never ceases to amaze me what people will do or say to a complete passerby.

Honesty, I do know that it is my choice to walk around with an obnoxiously loud style and green dreadlocks… but I just wish I was given a better chance to engage with people. After all, I am a super social creature.

Here are some things you should never lead with if you want to have an actual conversation with me… 

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