Mammas

I don’t understand what it means to be a mother.

I am a single, childless, adult woman, who has never experienced the joy and devotion of motherhood.

I do however, have the privilege of working with mothers every single day. Ninety-five percent of the women I see in the salon, as clients, are mothers; and I get to hear about their struggle, their triumph, and their committed and unwavering love for their dearest babies.

With that sense in mind, and that knowing, my work at it’s deepest level is to support these women in their roles by fostering a space for them to be completely themselves; to take off the wife hat, the employee hat, the boss hat, the mom hat, and the nurturers hat, to just be… nurtured. I know that sounds redundant, but ultimately our innate feminine ability is to nurture. It is my intention to create a space in which these roles are not needed, so that the client can be cared for at a soulful level. This is where I put much time, attention, and value into the work that I do. It is for this reason, as well as many other, more obvious reasons, that I do not allow children to be guests at their mother’s appointments.

This business boundary is one that has not always been well received, I understand how hard it is to arrange life around personal, and seemingly frivolous appointments, I can only imagine how hard it is to arrange the little lives you heroic mothers are responsible for. Contrary to how it may seem, this policy is in place to allow for the most beneficial experience to unfold.

As a stylist my mantra has always been,

The difference between a happy, and an unhappy client, is communication.

I prefer to thoroughly discuss the goal for the appointment at the start of each and every one, as to make sure we are on the same page before diving into chemical and cutting services. I choose to be very present during sessions, not answering my phone, consulting with other clients, or multi tasking in any other ways which would distract me from the job at hand. I take this work very seriously, and have such passion for it. Any personal or business boundaries, policies, and needs are set with thoughtful intention, and are always in place to insure the best possible relationship, and communication, between a woman and her stylist.

I am so grateful for the support I receive in this beautiful, artistic journey, it is because of you gracious women that I show up in this capacity.

Much love and light to the wonderful women in my life,

XoXo

-Tia

 

 

To My Anxious Friends,

I think it is safe to say that the word “overwhelmed” describes your emotional world right now.

I think it is safe to say that you are trying too hard to understand and see what each path and choice will lead to in the future.

I hate to be the one to tell you, that no path, or outcome is guaranteed… and the only constant in life is change, and transformation. No amount of anxiety or attempted control can make things any other way.

I was a very high strung person. My control issues were a result of my fear that a crippling anxiety attack would eventually overtake me.¬†After a lot of hard lessons, meditation, and finding a quiet space to house my worrying heart… I have learned now, to come back to this space of surrender.

I experienced so many situations in which I was shown that no amount of worry or struggle could ultimately control the future.

We hold the keys to our own happiness. Those keys do not come in the form of a map which perfectly orchestrates, and coordinates our lives, to manifest as the ideas and images we put there. So our only option is to surrender to what life brings us and to take each knock as a lesson, each triumph as a blessing, and each love as an experience of divinity.

The only control we have over our lives, is in each present moment… there we have the ability to make choices that will lead to more love and happiness for ourselves and for those around us. To put more good into the world by being aware of the time, space, and opportunity we have right then and there.

Don’t dim your light to fit in.

Don’t ever make yourself small.

Not for anyone.

Trust that when you have to let something go for one of these mentioned reasons, that something so much better is waiting for you.

Fulfillment begins when you stand in that power.

With love,

XoXo

-Tia